Body Jam Training

It has been some time when I've figure out myself to join the Body Jam training, a Les Mills program. With many positive encouragement from friends around me and many instructors as well who gives encouragement so that I will go for this training, and finally I've made up my mind to do so.

Its another 2 more days till the training day arrive. Past few weeks ago was very nervous, feeling anxious, and worried. Now feeling slightly better. Should have pump in more self confident for myself to face this challenge.

I hope I'm fine and can do it well. Although still a little nervous. But, will always tell myself I'm ready to face it! "Have fun and enjoy" is what everyone told me to be ready of! I wanna shine! Here I come BJ Training!! :D

Fading Trust?

Humans are very complicated creatures on earth. It's because they have a mind to think too much no matter from the simplest thing to the most terrifying act. Recently, really felt restless. Why people who are what we think they are turns out to be someone strange. It's just like a stranger who are always being close with us. Its really horrifying to even think about it.

Maybe my mind flies over the clouds and over-thought of stuff that might not happened? Or it is really as what my mesmerizing thoughts could be? Perhaps its a myth. I wonder...

I'm losing trust. Disappointment. What else can human really do? Sometimes it does filled me with lots of hatred. It gives me the shivers to ever imagined and fantasize about it.

Dear friends, please think twice and use the mind that human have to think rationally and not selfishly. A mind can be positive and negative. If its a good way to make things good, why not do the good deeds instead? Need not acts that really have bad motif on the other side.

回信

放飞机其实只是个很小的事情.
可能你会把它看得太重.
很多时候 有些事情 不需要把它抓得太紧.
如果你真的很在意， 不想等待， 需要确认， 你未必等.
你也会说sms并不贵.
打个电话问一问 得个肯定 也不难.
换个角度来看 不一定是要别人现告诉你.
你也可以比人家现问.

我觉得你所说的全部都是用 “我” 这个字来做出发点.
如果这只是你的想法 那不是有点自私吗?
你提到的一切是你希望人们可以变成你想要的人或你希望得到的东西.

朋友，如果觉得不肯定 就未必等到最后一分钟才问.
很多时候 你也是个很slumber的人.
不要只是你自己能slumber别人就不能.
这就是叫自私的想法吧.

你要知道 你付出多少 不代表你能得回多少.
Expectation是有的.
当expectation太高的话disappointment就会跟加高.
所以不要总是 付出时就有那种人家会应为你曾经为他付出过，
所以一定会 站在你那边， 一定为你伸出援手 的心态. 这些就是心机.

你曾经说过 那些心机不是拿来用在朋友身上.
但现在你让我觉得你重量的心机已重重的压上朋友们的心上.

很多时候 做些事前希望你能考虑效果.
我相信 醉中是有3分清醒的. 我也是有试过喝醉酒的感觉.

脑袋是清醒的 还能控制自己的行为的. 不需要借酒行凶的.
请留点尊严给自己. 你做得爽不代表人家看得爽.
这样的行为让我觉得你很desperate又带点cheap的感觉.
也看得出你有种耍心机的行为 让我心里觉得很不舒服 又很生气.

我做人比较straight forward. 不喜欢假装什么.
想到什么就说什么. 应觉带面具讲话很辛苦.
对朋友也一样. 何必让来让去，闪来闪去.
只用我真心而不是心机在我朋友身上.
人家对我好我就对他好. 得不到回报也没关系.
我只是想对人好. 付出过后人家开心那就是个很好的回报了.
人家开心已代表珍惜我所为他做的事情.

Heart Content

Dear Friends, I appreciate you guys. I know I might be very dependent sometimes. My characteristics shows that I am someone who always seeking for reliability as well. I know that you guys are all concern bout me. Really thank you a lot! I'm not being self centered. Maybe I'm the type who really don't know how to really express myself. Many people seems to feel confuse bout me and can't really read me.

Recently am really a bit down. And I know that you guys really feel heart ache seeing me like this. But I m sure, I will heal. I just need time. I'm trying my best to be cheerful when outing with you guys. I am really trying my best. If it still can't conceal my sadness and sorrow, I am really sorry. I'm still a normal human after all. All I can do is just motivate and support others positively. That's my philosophy. Cuz I believe no point using negative words and thoughts towards the people I really care of. But when it comes to myself, talk is cheap. I can't motivate myself with those positive words that i showered upon my friends.

Came through something from the radio when I was down, driving home. "The greatest magician of all is Time. It heals and will make magic to your life". I can only rely on it right now. Friends, we all need time. Maybe its a chance for me to grow up as well. Thank you and appreciate all of you guy's concern. Fortunate to have friends that cares.

The Song in My Heart

Love is not a easy game to play. The rhythm is really hard to catch.

Feeling really bad, when misunderstandings occur. I'm not sad, not angry, just brokened heart. The scene of us together, the things we've done, keep replaying themselves in my mind causing sleepless nights.

Your breath drips into my heart, my love, just like rain drops. I wish I can just cry my worries, my sorrows, my fears out. But I can't cry a single tear. Perhaps the rain will replace my tears.

Your emotions, your expressions are like the weather, rapidly changing. My foot steps are not quick enough to chase the speed of the changes.

Everything is still blured from my sight, but I rather not to be too clear bout reality.

The only thing I can say is, I'm true and I'm really sincere. Whatever I did, My actions, My deeds, are all sincere.

Missing

Missing someone is suffering.

The Year End Post

Its been a while since I blog. Being lazy and too much activities to attend especially its year end now and the very special and long waited holiday is the Holy Night of Christmas! Due to unforeseen "laziness" and insufficient of time for me to "spam", my Christmas gifts are still on my room floor, unwrapped half way all over waiting for my photo shooting session. And due to low camera quality, I still need to delay shooting them. Eventually, I will post them up here and also in Facebook after i have a photography session with them! HuHu~










It's actually a very fun night although we celebrate Christmas a week earlier then other "normal" people. Everyone put effort in it to make it happen! Like I always heard from the experience people around me, if you want something, nothing that is you cannot achieve. We just need to make things happen! And it turn out ultimately perfect that night! Everyone had fun, going home NOT empty handed also hopefully bring them memories and sweet smiles engrave in their hearts! LOL! Cheers and thanks for my "Salah Gang"!! Hugs and kisses~

And for now, awaiting for the 2010 to arrive. Its the last week for me to be here in this company. Finally I cant endure the system here and I quit this job. Will be starting my 2010 with my new life with a new job. Hopefully that job will turn out to be something good for me as, I finally able to set my resolutions for 2010 in my heart and hopefully to achieve it! To everyone, Happy 2010 in advance!

Why Employees Leave Organisations?

Found that this article is very true and wish to share it with everyone! ^^


WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS ? - Azim Premji, CEO- Wipro

Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better pay or profile.

Early this year, Mark, a senior software designer, got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.

He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office, and the very best technology, even a canteen that served superb food.

Twice Mark was sent abroad for training. 'My learning curve is the sharpest it's ever been,' he said soon after he joined.

Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Mark walked out of the job.

Why did this talented employee leave ?

Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.

The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called 'First Break All The Rules'. It came up with this surprising finding:

If you're losing good people, look to their immediate boss. Immediate boss is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he's the reason why people leave. When people leave they take the knowledge, experience and contacts with them, straight to the competitor.

'People leave managers; not companies,' write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman.

Mostly managers drive people away?

HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave, but a thought has been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he exercises his thoughts by looking for another job.

When people cannot retort openly to anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more.. By omitting to give the boss crucial information. Dev says: 'If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don 't have your heart and soul in the job.'

Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious, too pushy, too critical, but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on for too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.

Talented men leave. Dead wood don't.

Life's Promise

Life is not as promising as how we view it. Many things that we always thought its perfect on the surface, have many imperfections within. Humans born and strife to be perfect each day, but ended up will leave a scar of distort in their hearts and deeds. Knowing so can be so disappointing.

Some people show themselves as pure, and always acting to be someone perfect, saying things that brings up themselves, boasting, how good their heart can be and how much they sacrifice for someone they love, how much they can't let go of something important. But at the end, all of us are just merely humans after all with pure original sins. Everything will be just ruined up when things goes wrong. Not as pure as they say so. Nothing is important to them when it's already ended. By saying so means nothing at all.

Even how good and positive my heart can think about. Maybe other angle of acceptance like people say so? Maybe another way to view on things that happened badly? Seriously, I still can't lie to my own heart and my own feeling on how i feel even how positive i think bout it.

Power of Money

I've read through this in my mail, sent by my mom. It's quite meaningful and perhaps giving us some idea on how to be a millionaire! Just an article to share with everyone. Enjoy and learn! :)

By Adam Khoo - Singapore's youngest millionaire at 26 yrs.

I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China).

I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.

Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is traveling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire. ' He still looked pretty confused.

This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires'). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one.

The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiply their wealth so much faster.

Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60% (because I have my wife and 2 kids, mother in law, 2 maids etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if! they are lucky).

I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money.

When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur's Orgn)a few years back (YEO is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40 and make over $1m a year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worth well over $5m, travelled economy class and some even drove Toyota's and Nissans,not Audis, Mercs, BMWs.

I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers' and tycoons' sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family's wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation.

Thank God my rich dad foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business.

Then some people ask me, 'What is the point in making so much money if you don't enjoy it?'

The thing is that I don't really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewelery or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last.

Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life..

Instead, what makes me happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning ! so fast. What makes me happy is when I see my companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries.

What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life.

What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this blog is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me.

I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life's work (be it teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product.

If you hate what you are doing and rely on the money you earn to make you happy by buying stuff, then I think that you are living a life of meaninglessness.